Day 73 – 14th of March, 2011
“Never be bullied into silence. Never allow yourself to be made a victim. Accept no one’s definition of your life; define yourself.” – Harvey Fierstein
Sometimes in life you just need to stand up for yourself. There is always going to be someone that’s going to challenge you. There is always going to be someone who is going to challenge what you believe in and in situations like these, you need to stand up for yourself. Now standing up for yourself doesn’t mean you need to get into a fight. The most important principle behind standing up for yourself is that you stay true to what you believe in, after someone challenges it.
To stand up for what you believe in.
- By doing this, you will truly be yourself - If you go through life not standing up for anything you believe in, you’ll be living someone else’s life. Everyone has their own passions and personalities in life and you need to stay true to them.
- You will become better at what you believe in – In the act of standing up for what you believe in, you solidify your belief. You’ll want to do it more and you’ll want to be better at it. Let’s say a belief of yours is that helping people is more important than money. If you solidified this believe further, you’ll want to help more people AND you’ll want to help them in a deeper way, for example, you’ll help them solve their problems instead of giving them a hi five :-).
How To Stand Up For Yourself;
- Don’t change your mind unless that’s what you want. It’s easy to question yourself about your beliefs after someone questions you, but you should be confident enough in your beliefs not to do this.
- You need to know why you believe what you believe in(bit of a strange sentence!). Write down all the reasons why you believe something. Again using the very common example of “helping someone is more important than making money”. You need to know why helping people means more to you than making money and why you would rather focus on helping people.
What I’m Going To Do;
Well as I recently learnt, there is a certain point after you start growing where someone is going to challenge you. I also learnt that the challenge doesn’t matter as long as you’re happy with yourself. Someone challenged me in regards to the blog saying it was a complete waste of time. The person was someone who cares more about money, where as I share a different belief; I’d rather help people. I’m happy the challenge occurred though because first of all it solidified my belief, and secondly that’s when I realized that it didn’t matter. Who cares if someone doesn’t agree with your belief; just as long as you’re happy with it yourself. Oh and in the end we just agreed to disagree.
I will see you tomorrow with your life defined and your beliefs stronger!